Anger acts on inner emotion and is not planned action. Anger is easy to show: everyone gets angry. The feelings underlying the anger reaction make us feel vulnerable and weak; anger makes us feel, at least momentarily, strong and in control. Angry behaviours are learned over the life-span and therefore can be unlearned and replaced with healthier patterns of coping. Anger can be an immediate reaction to an isolated event or it can be a response after numerous events. To repress anger is unhealthy and yet to express it impulsively, although that may give momentary relief - inevitably carries negative results. To alter angry responses, it is necessary to understand where anger originates. have seen your parents or figures in authority get angry first, then resolve the issue. You are more likely to use that same approach. are frustrated and feel stressed, more irritable and likely to react with anger - the explosion makes you feel better for the moment. are tired and pre-occupied, you are more prone to burst out and get a result. hold your feelings inside rather than talk about them, your angry outbursts seem to give you authority over the situation. A little anger can motivate you to take action and consideration in positive ways. It is an ALERT signal.A lot of anger will make you "red with rage" and stop you in your tracks - it destroys goodwill and respect. Out of control anger drives away those you love, makes you feared for your lack of self-discipline, and endangers your daily normal existence.
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People tell you that you should calm down.
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People tell you that you often act in an agitated manner.
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You get irritated when you feel you have too many demands made on you.
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You feel tense much of the time.
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You find yourself not saying what is on your mind - at work or at home.
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You hardly ever complain about matters and when you do it's negative all the way?
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When you are upset, you block out the world andthe issue by distracting yourself.
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You are drinking, or smoking, or take recreational drugs almost daily to cope and calm down.
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You have trouble going to sleep because things in your head go round & round & round again.
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You feel misunderstood, or not listened to much of the time.
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You either tend to be a wallflower or you dominate the scene.
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People ask you not to shout or swear so much.
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Friends drop off and do not seek your company.
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You hit out at people, inside or physically.
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You get irritated by your pet's demands.
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You sometimes feel like crying for no reason whatsoever.
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You tense up, make a fist or clench your teeth, the moment someone says something you do not like.
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TOTAL
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Check the result below
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0 - 3 = You are managing: benefit from relaxing self-hypnosis4 - 6 = You just about manage moderate self-composure: learn more about what stresses you, and learn stress management techniques - book a session. 7 + = You are OUT OF CONTROL: you are dealing with an anger problem and could definitely benefit from learning anger management techniques.